I don’t want to go to church anymore.


I got this inspiration from a Friday when I was supposed to attend an all-night service with my family and I didn’t go. And of course my parents were pissed. And during that time, all I kept asking is how missing a church service was a reflection of my Christian faith. 

I had questions like does it mean I don’t love God? Does it mean I don’t believe in him? Is it not better to stay back than to go and not focus on the service? Which is more disrespectful to God?

And if we all are to answer this question, whatever the answer may be, it can’t be 100% what it should be. As clear as the bible is, we all tend to interpret it in our perspective, in the context of what makes sense to me. As far as I am concerned, it’s probably why we have so many doctrines.

What is the true reflection of my love for God?

As simple as this seems, it’s a personal question with different personal answer to everyone. I’ve seen people attend every church service and God is no way reflected in the things they do.

So what is truly the true reflection of my love for God?

What happened to “your Christian race is personal”?

Or what happened to “Christianity is a choice?”

And the best of all, What happened to “it’s all about your heart” 1 Samuel 16:7 says “But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart”

Do I always have to be in Church? What happened to “God’s presence follows us everywhere we go”?

Is it wrong if instead of attending a service, I deserve to stay in my room (for instance) and have my alone moment with God?

Church is a building.

Church is an event.

Church is a religious and social activity.

And attending Church is more of a habit than a way of life.

Well, all open for you all to argue

And the fact is that, for most Nigerians, church is something we do. Something we show up to on a regular basis. Something we attend, but not something that profoundly affects us at home, school, place of work or wherever we may find ourselves. Because this isn’t true, Nigeria should be a lot better than she is now.

What do you think?

Sadly, church attendance did very little for me or for anybody else as far as I could see. That may seem harsh or overstated. But my religious experiences and activities didn’t do much to change my heart or the way I lived. 

It seemed to me, growing up as a church attender, that too many-far too many-were good at being self-righteous white-washed tombs and not so good at being like Jesus Monday through Saturday. 

Here is my point: no one should just attend church. Instead, we should be the church.

I don’t have to go to a building, just to show that my Christian life is strong.

God doesn’t want us to be religious but truly righteous. He doesn’t want consumers but contributors. Jesus didn’t call us to just attend a church building once a week or every day. He challenged us to become a force that changes our world.

Showing up for church  meetings, singing a few songs, listening to some guy or girl talk, dropping some money in the offering, glad-handing a few people, and then leaving as if that were church. 

It’s not.

It’s not.

Good disciples- great disciples- do church together. They don’t just do meetings: they do life as partners. They are co-laborers committed to one single purpose, the advancement of God’s kingdom and the fulfillment of His mission to help people find and follow Jesus.

Great disciples serve others selflessly and sacrificially. They get off the bench and get into the game. They find needs and use their gifts to meet them through God’s grace and power.

Great disciples make it a priority to practice the teachings of Jesus at home, at work and in their neighborhoods. Of course, they’re not even close to perfect, but they practice what they preach, and they never stop learning and growing.

Church is not a sacred place filled with pews, candles and stained glass; it’s how they do life.

I’m not saying peoples should stop gathering with the church on Sundays or for whatever program in church. Of course our regular and faithful involvement in a worship service is essential to our growth. In a church service, we celebrate together, we learn from the teaching gifts God has given us, we invite our friends and family to come and see because we know they will encounter something beautiful, authentic and life changing. 

You can’t truly be the church without attending. Church isn’t something I can be by myself”- Joe Wittwer

The word for church is people meeting together because of Jesus. So we can’t eliminate the meeting part and still be the church. 

Yes, of course, gathering with the church matters. 

But please don’t just sit in a meeting. 

Don’t just attend without engaging.

Don’t just do your church-thang a couple of times a month ad think you’ve done your duty.

So if I won’t engage in a church service, why should I attend? The question again, which one is more disrespectful?

Only God knows who is serving him. Let’s not make ourselves the determinants of that.

Colossians 3:23: “Whatever you are doing, let your hearts be in your work, as a thing done for the lord and not for men.”

So, attending a service or whatever program in church is not coming from my heart, but rather to make family or friends happy or convinced I am a strong Christian, ill rather not go for that service.

It is disrespect to the only One that matters. 



P. S. 

Link: https://chuchleaders.com/outreach-missions/outreach-missions-articles/314185-dont-want-attend-church-anymore-kurt-bubna.html/2


And for the title of this post, LOL, it was to catch your attention.




  1. I believe the important thing when studying the word is to seek his face and ask the holy Spirit to help us understand it as God intends not just with our human mind. As for church going, we are the church and the fact that one is disturbed when one doesn’t attend service means one wants to grow and is sincere about it. It is actually an instruction “Do not forsake the assembly of the saints”. It is true some are just church goers without serving God in truth and in Spirit but our business should be to truly serve him. As much as salvation is personal, it is not private. Therefore with all this being said one can only pray and actively work towards pleasing God and using our gifts for the edification of the body of christ(the church). I do feel bad when I don’t attend church service and I am glad I do because the day I don’t it will leave me wondering if my conscience has been seared and I truly do not care about the things of God.

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  2. That’s true. At some point in my life i didn’t believe in God anymore, alot of bad stuff had happened and yet my parents always forced me to go to church. While in church i thought about a lot of things to the point that i thought of the food i will eat after church or where i will go. Until i got the true meaning of my faith

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  3. I really do connect on this one. A lot of people have taken the definition of church and Christianity and given it their own meaning.
    It has become to please others and not about the one who matters, God which is sad.
    Imagine people dressing up to look sexy just to entice people and get compliments for a church service (don’t get it twisted, there’s nothing wrong in looking good but that isn’t meant to be one’s aim or priority when going to church). It should be with a mind to serve, to learn at his feet and not a time to snap chat the service or even be using instagram.
    It would be nice to also address the church denomination issue, that ‘my church is better than yours’ mentality.
    Thanks for your amazing and interesting topics. Finally see myself getting hooked to a blog

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